Who to Surround Yourself With

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Hello hello friends!

Please feel free to yell at me and throw rotten tomatoes at me for hardly posting lately, I deserve it. Every week I tell myself to post at least twice, so I’m trying. I really am.

Since it’s nearing the Holiday season and since I’ve recently been reminded of how many wonderful friends I have, I decided to dedicate this post to just that: friendship. I’ve had plenty of experiences with friendships to consider myself well-versed in the topic, so hopefully I have some advice that is worthwhile to you.

I’ve had an incredibly long list of friends and friendships in my life; unfortunately quite a few who haven’t lasted to this point in my life. How does that saying go? “A friend is someone who walks in when the rest of the world walks out”? A little overdone and probably a bit cliche, but it gets the point across. Not everyone sticks around, but that doesn’t always have to be a bad thing.

I have mentioned before that I’m a big believer and advocate of happiness and of doing things to make yourself happier. Sometimes in order to become happier, you have to make changes. And sometimes those changes include cutting negative or toxic people out of your life. Sometimes those negative people are your friends.

Now, I’m not saying to cut out someone because of one fight. I am also a believer of forgiveness and that people can learn from their mistakes. So please don’t take this post as a reason to end a friendship that might not need to be ended. Just hear me out, yeah?

If you’re genuinely unhappy with a friendship, if it pains you to be around that person, if you feel your happiness decline when you’re around them, if you don’t like who you are when you’re around them- that to me is toxic. To me friendships should be opportunities to make you a better, happier person. They should be full of support and love and understanding and it should be beneficial to the both of you.

But sometimes, as terrible as it is, your friend is the opposite of that. And sometimes, you might be that friend. I hate to admit it but I’m sure I’ve been that friend to someone at least once. And if I have, or if I am, I’d understand why you’d want to end the relationship. I wouldn’t ever want someone to suffer around me just because they feel obligated to.

Cutting negative people out of your life is one of the first steps to really appreciating and understanding the good friends that you have. I used to always see friends as being the people you were around the most, the ones you talked to the most frequently. And I suppose there was a time in my life where that was necessary, but as I’ve grown up I’ve learned that that doesn’t always have to be the case.

I have an amazing group of friends in my life right now and there are some that I talk to every single day and some that I talk to only a few times a month. But that’s one of the great things about having such strong friendships- that really doesn’t matter. I have numerous friends that I can start a conversation with after weeks of nothing and pick up right where we left off.

To me it’s all about surrounding yourself with people who make you better. What exactly do I mean by that? I mean find the people who make you happier, that listen to you when you’re a mess and you don’t know what to do, the ones who know how to make you feel better, who don’t try to tell you what to do because they know that ultimately your decision is most important. Find them and don’t let them go, because they are very special.

Don’t let yourself be used or insulted, and please don’t ever let someone make you feel unwanted in a friendship. Your friendship should be valued and appreciated and if anyone ever makes you doubt yourself because of that, consider if the pain you’re feeling is worth it. Surround yourself with people who love you and what you have to offer. You should never have to feel unappreciated in a friendship.

And lastly, in order to have good friends you have to be a good friend. You can’t expect people to treat you well if you’re not treating them well. I’ve learned this from experience, and I’ve grown from it. There has been a few friendships of mine that have ended because I didn’t know this seemingly simple fact. But I’m learning and I’m growing and I really hope that I’m as good of a friend to my friends as they are to me.

So, don’t forget to remind your friends how thankful you are for them. I’m someone who tells my friends that I love them quite often, and sometimes it’s nice to send them a text letting them know how important they are to you. Or give them a hug, I’m sure they wouldn’t mind a hug!

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Keep Your Head Up

Greetings friends! Sorry for the lack of posts this week but it has been one of the busiest and most stressful ones of the semester thus far. (I’m so good at making excuses)

I’m sitting here at my desk taking a break from homework and I thought to myself “Things are so different now.” And they are. When I think back to my first few weeks, or even my first month or so here, it’s hard to believe that I was ever feeling so down. Things are loads different now, and I couldn’t be happier.

Moving to a new town and being on your own definitely has it’s downs, but as time has gone by I’ve come to realize that it has quite a few upsides to it as well. I’ve met and became friends with some wonderful people, I’ve made memories that I wasn’t expecting to make back in September. And I’ve learned  how to really be on my own, which is something that I was convinced I was already a professional at prior to moving away, but oh how wrong I was!

College is really what you make of it. The same thing goes for nearly any other situation that you’re in-it’s what you make of it. If I had spent the entirety of this semester holed up in my room avoiding my problems and feeling sorry for myself, I wouldn’t be in such a good place right now. Of course there are always going to be hard times but so long as you keep your head up and remain hopeful, things will get better. I am very content with my life right now and I can’t wait to see what other goodies the future brings for me!

Good luck to you all this week, fingers crossed that it’s a quick one.

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My Three Best Friends

Happy Monday! I hope that you all had a safe and wonderful Halloween if you celebrate it. I definitely did!

Today is a very special day. I’d tell you to guess why but I’m sure not a whole lot of you would guess that it’s my baby girl Milli’s golden birthday today! (Yes, she is my dog. Hush.) She turned 3 today and I honestly can’t believe it’s been that long. I make it sound like she’s my child. They grow up so darn fast!!!

I was lucky enough to go home for a little while over the weekend so I thought it would be the perfect time to snap some photos of all 3 of my pups (I’m sure you’ll be able to tell that Milli is indeed my favorite. I’m sorry, but she’s just too stinkin cute!) So long story short, this post is dedicated to my dogs. You should probably know that I absolutely love dogs. Especially mine. Like, I’ve seriously contemplated dropping out of school and running a dog farm where people can just come and pet the dogs and cuddle them whenever they’re sad. Try and tell me that wouldn’t be the best thing ever!

This is Milli. She definitely knows how cute she is. I think she thinks she’s a model.

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This is Copper! He’s either being really evil or really sweet. It all depends on the day. Kind of like my little brother Adam. Actually…REALLY like my little brother Adam.

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And this is my sweet little Kiki. She’s the one who appreciates when I come home, she rarely leaves my side. She even squeaks for me when I’m in the bathroom! Makes my heart melt.

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Please take a minute to hug and snuggle your pets today for me! I really miss mine dearly while I’m away at school but thankfully my mom sends me pictures once in a while :)

Make the rest of your morning/day/night a fantastic one and thanks for stopping by!

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